From The Last Lecture (2008, book version)
ch. 47, A Bad Apology Is Worse Than No Apology
[T]he two classic bad apologies:
1) "I'm sorry you feel hurt by what I've done." (This is an attempt at an emotional salve, but it's obvious you don't want to put any medicine in the wound.)
2) "I apologize for what I did, but you also need to apologize to me for what you've done." (That's not giving an apology. That's asking for one.)
Proper apologies have three parts:
1) What I did was wrong.
2) I feel badly that I hurt you.
3) How do I make this better?
And since it's about girlfriends... ch. 37, Watch What They Do, Not What They Say
My daughter is just eighteen months, so I can't tell her this now, but when she's old enough, I want Chloe to know something a female colleague once told me, which is good advice for young ladies everywhere. In fact, pound for pound, it's the best advice I've ever heard.
My colleague told me: "It took a long time, but I've finally figured it out. When it comes to mean who are romantically interested in you, it's really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do."
That's it. So here it is, for Chloe.
And as I think about it, some day it could come in pretty useful for Dylan and Logan, too.
Video version (http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=362421849901825950&hl=en#)
The result of those were generally rape in the invaded areas.
This is reminding me of this...
ATTENTION NWSF
AND TOTALLY NOT TO BE TAKEN LITERALLY
seriously, some of those steps are right off insane and would only deal with disaster.
BUT the sociological analysis is pretty good
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