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Title: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 22, 2014, 05:17:16 pm
First off, hello again. It's been a while everyone!

I'll try to keep this as a decent size.
Sorry about the sudden disappearance if anyone actually noticed also taking the site offline.
for the last three or four months, My Ex wife and I have been fighting back and forth with lawyers and courts while trying to finalize this divorce and her trying to obtain what I have and more. My occupation is a Motor Coach Operator for Greyhound Lines Inc. Been in that field of work for years and you can pretty much say me being away from home has an impact in our marriage, not to mention I came home and didn't pull into my driveway for I seen the garage door open, here walking the guy out of the house to his car and kissing before he left and before he pulled away, I pulled up.

I kept my cool, I told the guy, you can leave, I don't have any words for you. If you like you can come back tomorrow because I wont be living here and you can take over everything I was taking care of. The wife and the house is now your responsibility if you want it because its a done dead for me. Congratulations sir!

So as I began to package my belongings and make moving arrangements, I said not a single word and of course, she running off at the mouth, Everything is my fault, I am the reason why this happen. I told here, if you truly feel that way then I am sorry. I am sorry for working so much so you can go to school and work towards your dream job, I am sorry for working so much to make sure you and your daughter have a roof over your head and treating you both to the finer things in life, well basically I am sorry for being a provider. I am guilty of those things.

And what amazes me is being caught in the act, I didn't get not one apology or an attempt of an explanation, all I got was I caused her to cheat because I'm never home. So yeah, I been back and forth, with this divorce case and obtaining my belongings, got arrested because she said I was trespassing knowing I was trying to get the last of my belongings, lucky I had personal days from my job saved up which I used for the two nights I was locked up until a judge was available monday morning.

It's been pure hell these last few months but I am happy to say next Friday, it is all over. The divorce, she no longer has my name, etc and luckily I had a FEMALE judge that seen through all the shit I had to go through with her and her wrongfully having me arrested. Of course she destroyed me electric equipment which I was trying to obtain on the night I was arrested and I was glad I was smart enough to take pictures of it on may smartwatch instead of my phone she didnt know I was actually taking pictures with a watch and when I was released, the cop that arrested me mysteriously misplace my cell phone, and her denying doing as such and myself presenting images of the damage she did, she was ordered to replace $4500 of electronic equipment and she was ordered to pay me for lost wages and I could of got alimony but I told the judge that I want here to replace the stuff she damaged only. I do not want her money, just my equipment replaced.

Anyway im on the road to recovery plus starting completely over. I still have my job thank god and I just got a new 3 bedroom two story home where I can start my life over as a single man and I am so looking forward to it.

I am never getting married again. that shit is the worst!
To those with successful marriages. congrats, you are lucky.
To those thinking about it, Please get to know your partner very well before taking a step like that.

Mugen-Related:

I have everything on my server, nothing is lost, I know I wasn't going to be around for a good while to I closed shop for a while.
If interested, I will be back up and running close to new years. Gotta get my new home straight first.
Sorry for the sudden absence.

thank you for both reading and your time.

-SyN-
www.clubsyn-x-treme.com
www.ultimateki.com
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 22, 2014, 05:24:04 pm
Gotta love auto correct on cellphones. Sorry for the bad wording.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: GLB on October 22, 2014, 05:27:51 pm
Well shit. Welcome back bro, that's some crazy stuff, glad it worked out for you in the end
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Alex Sinigaglia on October 22, 2014, 05:29:23 pm
Wow...

I didn't imagine something like this was happening to you. At least you're going to live better, so that's good. :)
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Orochi Gill on October 22, 2014, 05:34:03 pm
Good to know it's at least getting better. :)
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Black Hatter on October 22, 2014, 05:39:49 pm
Wow. That really sucks. Eh, celebrate cuz' your a free man, and welcome back ;)
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 22, 2014, 06:29:00 pm
Thanks guys. I am so looking forward to it plus I wanna get back into doing mugen works.

Also I know my behavior towards alot of ppl  in the past wasn't the best, well this kinda played a part in it but I am willing to work on that plus start fresh with everyone.

Ill chat with y'all later, Thanks for taking the time to hear me out. It really helps!
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Markpachi on October 22, 2014, 06:43:36 pm
Good to see that you'll be back here again, man, and welcome back to the path of the free man!
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Flowrellik on October 22, 2014, 07:08:02 pm
Wow. From reading this I might have to re-evaluate my future. I had plans on marrying but seeing this happen makes me think again.
I'm glad everything went out accordingly Syn and Congrats on being single again. Welcome back.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 22, 2014, 07:12:45 pm
Thanks, and your future with you life long partner, just take your time, both of you. don't let my experience scare you.

Ill see y'all later, gotta go to work.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Hephaistos31 on October 22, 2014, 07:21:20 pm
Your wife was a fucking stupid girl.
God will take care of her, and I swear her to burn. Fuck I hate those stories.

I hope that you weel better now, SyN, because this is the only thing that really count after something like that.
Welcome back, man! Take your time, and welcome back again. :D
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Rajaa on October 22, 2014, 07:26:46 pm
You were expecting an American/Americanized woman to accept responsibility for her infidelity and apologize? That's funny. She already got conformation from her friends and the media that if you don't treat her right, then some other man will; AKA depending on how she feels in the moment, she may or may not seek sex with someone else.

Never get married in upper first world western countries. I hope you learned your lesson. There are too many stories like this to risk it. It's a much better bet either just not getting married and being together for as long as you are infatuated with one another so you're  free to leave at any time (if there are no children), or just living as a bachelor and using your money and time how you please. Less risk and less stress and less of that common, poison attitude that drives men to abandon some aspect of their livelihood.

:devil:
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Japanese Jesus on October 22, 2014, 07:29:18 pm
Dear SYN ... it'll be okay, bro.

You were too good for Aztec Soldier anyway.

#itgetsbetter
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Umezono on October 22, 2014, 07:30:54 pm
wow 3 bad posts in a row within minutes of eachother, and not by the same person
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Rajaa on October 22, 2014, 07:54:16 pm
Gaza Haganer said, October 22, 2014, 07:30:54 pm
wow 3 bad posts in a row with minutes of eachother, and not by the same person
Well, let's see:

The first post in this supposed bad-post-trio begins with god and karma, which may or may not be synonymous with plain old payback, the kind that if you treat others badly, then people will take notice and then you will also be treated badly. Or it could be treated as it is, religious banter about hell, which is indeed stupid and disproportionate (burning forever and suffering).

The second post is a paragraph explaining points about getting married in upper first-world western society, which is plagued by poisonous feminists ideals such as overzealous ideals of how relationships work between men in women, and overwhelmingly female-leaning divorce courts. Note the woman in France who sued her husband because he didn't fuck her enough, getting him for 9000 euros. It advises anyone reading it to stay away from marriage to avoid divorces like the -- hopefully -- rare cases of paying for lack of sex, and the more common examples of the wife taking way more than her share.

The third post is a simple joke that isn't really that bad at face value. The intent looks playful enough, but it's text, so who actually knows.


Your post, however, is extremely horrible from a grammatical standpoint.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: 地獄の花 on October 22, 2014, 08:05:37 pm
bro  can't believe you didn't strangle the other guy. you're a fucking saint or pretty much just sane enough.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Umezono on October 22, 2014, 08:09:19 pm
my bad rajaa, i was at a loss for proper grammar when faced with your tough guy persona. (tho i still cant tell if youre serious)

2 bad posts and a tough guy post***
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Bastard Mami on October 22, 2014, 08:25:21 pm
Gaza Haganer said, October 22, 2014, 07:30:54 pm
wow 3 bad posts in a row within minutes of eachother, and not by the same person
4
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Saikoro on October 22, 2014, 08:41:05 pm
Damn SyN!! I was wondering why you weren't around for a while. I remember your PMs with all of those awesome samples, and then nothing. But that's cool because you pretty much went through hell. I'm glad that it's over and that you can finally move on.

I have to go with Rajaa here (I'd pull quotes but my smartphone sucks for that >:( ) and agree that these American women are too materialistic and phony. Lots of them go the gold digging route and have unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be. You obviously were doing your thing to support one another (interesting job by the way), and then this shit gets pulled. Seriously!? Hearing of her trashing your stuff is maddening. It would also have been fucking hilarious to be sued for lack of sex, but we're not in France.

You'll recover well and look back on this one day. Best wishes man!!
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Rajaa on October 22, 2014, 08:46:13 pm
Gaza Haganer said, October 22, 2014, 08:09:19 pm
my bad rajaa, i was at a loss for proper grammar when faced with your tough guy persona. (tho i still cant tell if youre serious)

2 bad posts and a tough guy post***

Tough guy? I haven't even displayed anything even remotely close to a "tough guy" persona. And even if I do come off as a tough guy, that's all in your head. You're ignoring my arguments and resulting to ad hominem attacks, and that makes your posts the worst posts in the thread. Nice try, though. Try actually coming up with a counter argument next time.

And since we're attacking personas. Stop trying to be Titiln, you're failing. He's cooler than you.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Niitris on October 22, 2014, 09:08:19 pm
*munch munch*

Good to know that Syn's situation is improving.

Yeah, marriage (something I'm not doing in the foreseeable future) isn't as great as it sounds; half of them end in divorce. And yes, stats are similar in other developed nations. Besides, the U.S. is a place where people learn about life from celebrities; expectations from the dating/marriage pool shouldn't be very high. Better to stick to non-marriage relationships until one is ready.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Umezono on October 22, 2014, 09:15:36 pm
well i wasnt trying to attack you, i just think your opinions are bad bro

in the case of biased divorce courts and marriage being a "risk", you post one ridiculous fringe story as your evidence when the evidence points otherwise (custody is easier to attain for men on state and national levels, alimony is actually rarely adequate for women who are almost always worse off financially post-divorce)

Quote
Study 1: MASS
2100 cases where fathers sought custody (100%)
5 year duration

29% of fathers got primary custody
65% of fathers got joint custody
7% of mothers got primary custody

Study 2: MASS
700 cases. In 57, (8.14%) father sought custody
6 years

67% of fathers got primary custody
23% of mothers got primary custody

Study 3: MASS
500 cases. In 8% of these cases, father sought custody
6 years

41% of fathers got sole custody
38% of fathers got joint custody
15% of mothers got sole custody

Study 4: Los Angeles
63% of fathers who sought sole custody were successful

Study 5: US appellate custody cases
51% of fathers who sought custody were successful (not clear from wording whether this includes just sole or sole/joint custody)

http://amptoons.com/blog/files/Massachusetts_Gender_Bias_Study.htm

on the alimony, thats probably the only place where i can say family courts are biased towards woman in good faith. but in the end there are stats like this that should make you feel better about being male:

(http://www.villainouscompany.com/vcblog/images/incometoneeds.png)

http://dspace.library.cornell.edu/bitstream/1813/14235/2/KristenReillyFinalThesis1.pdf

so all in all, i dont agree with your idea that feminists have made the US a country where men are greatly at risk when getting married. idk about france, but maybe you should be careful around french girls rajaa, assuming theyre fighting for you among the rest of girls that are.

and im flattered youd compare me to titiln, i was going for my own thing, but that gives me a boost since he is cool. not as cool as you, considering your massive ego, but getting there.


Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Antoine Pickens on October 22, 2014, 09:38:43 pm
Good to hear from you Syn!

My deepest sympathy on that situation...I've been through the same thing, except I wasn't married. I worked two jobs, and went to school on the weekend to take care of a woman who became a parasite. Some women just aren't ready to deal with a busy man who honestly works for his living.

All I can say is some things have to fall apart, in order for them to fall in place. It will make you a stronger man for battles ahead of you! The single world awaits you...have fun and love what you do man, you definitely deserve it.

Oh yeah....a VERY EARLY HAPPY NEW YEAR to you Syn!
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Bastard Walt on October 22, 2014, 09:56:54 pm
Gaza Haganer said, October 22, 2014, 09:15:36 pm
and im flattered youd compare me to titiln, i was going for my own thing, but that gives me a boost since he is cool. not as cool as you, considering your massive ego, but getting there.
Start capitalizing your sentences, and the differences between you and Titiln become even more obvious. Also, for readability.

Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: KensouSye on October 22, 2014, 09:58:26 pm
While her side isn't posted, I'm gonna go ahead and say I'm on your side, Syn. Can't help, but be biased.

-SyN- said, October 22, 2014, 05:17:16 pm
I kept my cool, I told the guy, you can leave, I don't have any words for you. If you like you can come back tomorrow because I wont be living here and you can take over everything I was taking care of. The wife and the house is now your responsibility if you want it because its a done dead for me. Congratulations sir!
I agree, bro. Good move.

-SyN- said, October 22, 2014, 05:17:16 pm
I am sorry for working so much so you can go to school and work towards your dream job, I am sorry for working so much to make sure you and your daughter have a roof over your head
Who owns the house? Why are YOU moving out?
Selfisness can be a virtue, I guess, and so can staying alone maybe, it looks like.

-SyN- said, October 22, 2014, 05:17:16 pm
Arrested
Why is it so easy to get arrested this way?
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Jesuszilla on October 22, 2014, 10:01:38 pm
You should have beaten him within an inch of his life... then pissed on him.


That's what I would have done.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Rajaa on October 22, 2014, 10:02:10 pm
Gaza Haganer said, October 22, 2014, 09:15:36 pm
Spoiler, click to toggle visibilty

The first statistic about custody uses words like "primary" and "joint" to bend their studies. When a man gets to have his children 2 days a week, that's not considered primary custody, that's considered joint  And all the other technical use of terms like that or lack thereof can bend statistics. Using statistics made by a college and that are not peer reviewed is mostly naive. And even still, since youb linked to it and believe it, the same link you posted reads like this:

"Research studies from throughout the country indicate that women's standards of living consistently decrease more than men's after a divorce because women are left with a disproportionately large share of the cost of raising children and a disproportionately small share of the marriage's wealth and earning power."

So, while your statistics show that men get more children in Massachusetts, THROUGHOUT the USA, it's absolutely the other way around.  So, women get the bigger burden in raising their children, and because of that they need more money from men their ex-husbands. It would make more sense to give the children to the parent who is more capable of caring for the child financially in this case.

Also, since you like statistics, look up the percentage of who initiates divorce more, either by their actions or by simply initiated it. It'll be overwhelmingly women. So, if women stopped getting more divorces, then their wouldn't even need to be a custody battle and men wouldn't get a hole in their pockets.

So, considering all of that, marriage is a hell of a risk for men since there's over a 70 percent chance it'll end in a divorce, he'll only see his child twice a week (if his ex-wife doesn't disobey the court, which, from purely anecdotal experience from my job, she will), and he'll be in debt to his wife for a significant amount of time after the divorce. Not wroth it. Don't get married. Avoid the risk. Save yourself a headache.

You said you agree that courts are biased in alimony, yet you still make excuses and say you disagree. It doesn't make any sense. What do you actually believe.

I never said feminists made the US a horrible place for men to live, I only implied that it made male and female relationships worse. Stop attacking strawman arguments.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Lith on October 22, 2014, 10:12:17 pm
:^ guys can you not
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Rajaa on October 22, 2014, 10:17:10 pm
Yeah, you're right. It's not the right topic for this. Excuse me, Syn.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: DW on October 22, 2014, 10:19:06 pm
Well, hope things smooth out well for you Syn. I look forward to your future MUGEN works. With that out of the way I saw this:

Rajaa said, October 22, 2014, 07:54:16 pm
Note the woman in France who sued her husband because he didn't fuck her enough, getting him for 9000 euros. It advises anyone reading it to stay away from marriage to avoid divorces like the -- hopefully -- rare cases of paying for lack of sex, and the more common examples of the wife taking way more than her share.

:pwn:

Is this for real? Shit's crazy bruh...
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Bastard Walt on October 22, 2014, 10:20:20 pm
Jesuszilla said, October 22, 2014, 10:01:38 pm
You should have beaten him within an inch of his life
but he didn't cheat on him, she did :S

If it was rape I'd understand, but she willingly invited him. If anybody should get all the rage poured onto them it's her IMO
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Lith on October 22, 2014, 10:23:42 pm
Aye I also think it should be her, honestly Syn was smart to not do anything, divorce is a fucking mess.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Umezono on October 22, 2014, 10:28:50 pm
im sorry about that too syn
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Hephaistos31 on October 22, 2014, 10:30:53 pm
Oh guys, here in France we have stories that are strange, sometimes funny.
Not developping because I don't want SyN to feel bad or something...
Just the fact that we have to know our partners...
It's a real fucking nightmare when people are not what they used to show each days.
And after that, I'm with JZ. It would probably be a complete other story there too... Just to eradicate the madness, for 5 or 10 minutes at least.

Walt: I disagree.

You live now in another town, maybe, SyN? Or in the same place?
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Japanese Jesus on October 22, 2014, 10:42:36 pm
Mugen creators before inauthentic wives.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: KensouSye on October 22, 2014, 10:52:42 pm
Jesuszilla said, October 22, 2014, 10:01:38 pm
You should have beaten him within an inch of his life... then pissed on him.
That's what I would have done.
Hephaistos31 said, October 22, 2014, 10:30:53 pm
And after that, I'm with JZ. It would probably be a complete other story there too... Just to eradicate the madness, for 5 or 10 minutes at least.
Walt: I disagree.
I thought this was a joke. You guys really think that loving someone and getting upset means that you should ever do something so stupid?
Go into the relationship not loving or with your feelings guarded so you're not prone to acting so foolishly. No one should ever be able to get you to act this way especially over something as stupid as cheating.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Bastard Walt on October 22, 2014, 11:03:19 pm
Some people can control their emotions better than others, all I'm saying is for you getting cheated on it was the worst day of your life, for the other guy it was Tuesday and he 'got some', for the woman it was OH SHIT, I HOPE I DON'T GET CAUGHT.

So, I'd say the one who was in the wrong(est?) is the one doing it wrong on purpose.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: The Fisher King on October 23, 2014, 12:13:23 am
Overall SyN was pretty damn intelligent and patient in that occassion but honestly if the disappointment in that relationship has been building for a lot of time I would have done the same thing. Who cares if the divorce was already settled.

Glad to see you are alive and well and very glad you got your life in order after this mess of relationship from your standpoint. It must feel good to start fresh after all of this, especially if the source of income is still there.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Thagr8test on October 23, 2014, 12:37:04 am
Man thats rough but thats how females can be never accepting responsibility for their actions only blaming them on someone else. I feel you for not raging out on the guy, as long as he's not talking trash or acting tough then there's no need to involve him further. All in all you handled the whole ugly situation like a boss, I personally may have lost it after being wrongfully arrested only to be released and find my stuff is destroyed so props to you for that as well. Level headed dude  :cool4:
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Jesuszilla on October 23, 2014, 03:12:08 am
KensouSye said, October 22, 2014, 10:52:42 pm
Jesuszilla said, October 22, 2014, 10:01:38 pm
You should have beaten him within an inch of his life... then pissed on him.
That's what I would have done.
Hephaistos31 said, October 22, 2014, 10:30:53 pm
And after that, I'm with JZ. It would probably be a complete other story there too... Just to eradicate the madness, for 5 or 10 minutes at least.
Walt: I disagree.
I thought this was a joke. You guys really think that loving someone and getting upset means that you should ever do something so stupid?
Go into the relationship not loving or with your feelings guarded so you're not prone to acting so foolishly. No one should ever be able to get you to act this way especially over something as stupid as cheating.

If someone does that to me and I see 'em, they're getting their ass beat, period, and they deserve it. They should be lucky if I spare any lives.

I'm not discussing this any further and I'm outta this thread.



Hang in there, SyN. Nobody deserves this crap.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 23, 2014, 03:29:37 am
Everyone has their own way of handling things but it's also easy to say how one would handle something by just observation. Not putting anyone down with that last line but believe me, it's hard being the better person in a situation where the female is dead wrong and knows it but never takes responsibility for her actions but blames you for her actions.

That's a good example of today's female logic.

Btw I agree with what Rajaa said in his first post. Today's women are fascinated by what they see on these stupid reality shows and wants to base their relationship from that. Today's women want to be the center of attention  and stand out from everyone else like they got it going on or she doing better than the next person.

Hell, they fight and get mad when showing up at an event with the same hairstyle and outfit so what you expect.

To those saying I should of did something to the guy, it wasn't worth it and she was to dumb to fall for the trap because whenever a women is feeling weak or vulnerable due to lack of attention,  anyone can push up, on, her and take advantage and hit it. It's just like Walt said, the guy is like, I got some, the female is like, I didn't get caught. ..

anyway I suspected it for a while because the conversations would quickly turn into arguments, mainly her doing, her calling me when im, on, the road asking when I'll be back home so she can start dinner, etc.

I honestly didn't care and I knew sooner or later I was going to leave. She just made it alot easier on me.
I'm sure she did not expect me to behave the way I did so that messed her up, like I said, it was not worth it which led to my arrest because I was coming back for the last of my belongings only to find out she smashed it and told the cops I was 5 rest passing on her property.

I prayed to help keep calm because there is an, old saying, what comes around, goes around and the lady judge was in, favor of me because she hates when women make her look, bad and trying to take advantage of the system and being spiteful because they can't have it their way.

another guy in this thread asked is it that easy to get arrested?
Here in the US it is, women got it easy here so they abuse it.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Demitri on October 23, 2014, 03:51:39 am
I knew you were in a rough patch based off the little bit you mentioned but damn bro.

I'm glad you at least got the proof you needed for the damages and such. Old me would've told you not to give up on marriage but.......well we'll catch up soon.

Kudos to the judge too.  :)

-SyN- said, October 23, 2014, 03:29:37 am
another guy in this thread asked is it that easy to get arrested?
Here in the US it is, women got it easy here so they abuse it.
Wanted to give an example of this;
I have a female cousin who dated a friend's friend. Eventually a kid happened. My cousin doesn't like his family. The friend was working on becoming a cop. Long story short, she lied about abuse and pretty much screwed that up for him and got him arrested. Now he works at an airport. Good money but the guy is beyond miserable.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: The Aboriginal One on October 23, 2014, 04:11:05 am
Hello, -SyN-, nice to see you again.

I'm for one glad that you've kept your cool through the ordeal, and that you are going to get the retribution that you deserved, despite all the hurdles that you have to go through. You did good, chief.

Most people will not understand why you did what you did, it's apparent in this thread, but they mean well, and are going by what they know, for those people, be mindful for what others say might be stupid to them, what you say might hold true to them. take it as water off a ducks back, or at the very most a learning moment.

As for you, I hate to say it but your experiences and actions never leave you. I learned that from this forum alone, let alone the real life playing field.  Those experiences are what made you you. Since many of us respect you like we would our family, it's safe to say that your experiences shaped you very well. I beg you to not, by lack of better words in my head, get salty over women and relationships. This is one of a many different varieties of women, and friendships are great regardless of gender, race, creed, or other walk of life.

Personally, I want to say, you are awesome. Stay that way.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 23, 2014, 04:17:15 am
I will, and thanks.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Generic Main Character on October 23, 2014, 05:04:59 am
Shit, what a fucked up situation. Honestly, you must some sort of monk to have handled it as well as you did. Well, that woman is clearly out of her damned mind, so be glad you're out of there!
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Legendary DeMoNk@I on October 23, 2014, 06:02:42 am
Damn....That was heavy. I remember a long time ago you were posting pics n stuff of your EX too and happy smh. funny how shit changes over time bro. Its a damn shame she put you through that. Im glad the judge was in your favor. Thats why i dont take that marriage shit seriously as much as i would like to.

Respect to you for keeping your cool when you saw the other dude. It wouldnt have been worth it anyway. You didnt know him and he was just another squirrel getting a nut. Shes his headache now lol Its just good he didnt get out of pocket towards you on some asshole shit. So i tip my hat to you that you kept it G'd up and stayed cool with that. Besides your EX would have used that shit against you too smh....

But anyway good youre coming back around. focus on yourself and your kid (when you get time to see her) and thats it. Most of these women here in the US be having shit fucked up when it comes to money and marriage. The law be on their side way too easy on top of that. So as men we gotta be VERY careful who the hell we marry and have kids with ESPECIALLY when we are the good guys.

The game is sour bruh. I bet If you were a dog and treating her like shit things would be much different and less headache heh. Funny but a FACT^^
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Antoine Pickens on October 23, 2014, 07:24:53 am
Legendary DeMoNk@I said, October 23, 2014, 06:02:42 am
The game is sour bruh. I bet If you were a dog and treating her like shit things would be much different and less headache heh. Funny but a FACT^^


Indeed; that's the ongoing trend now with U.S. women. They're too "material" with ass-backwards morals and values.  Some are lessons while others are looking at you like you're an ATM receipt. "Being good" isn't easy...and it's only harder when we don't assess every situation properly.  She really wanted Syn to "act out of character", but it backfired. Even the "guilt trip" had no effect, and I'm pretty sure that shocked her too.  She was angry and insecure because she "knew" what she was doing to you. When you know your self-worth, people are only capable of surprising you...eventually they'll understand what they've missed out on.

I can feel ALL of the emotion in this thread....just know we're all happy for you SyN.

Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Flowrellik on October 23, 2014, 07:35:14 am
Couldn't have said it better myself. Stuff like what's stated above is why I still remain single. I'd rather find love in a different country than this (Better be careful considering this might be bold).
In any case, I'm happy you are still going strong and still with us Syn. Welcome back :)
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Calhoun Tubbs87 on October 23, 2014, 08:40:44 am
Congrats to you. Wish you the best of luck in the future. I hope this doesn't permanently derail you from the idea of marriage because it can be beautiful when done right. My parents will be celebrating 30 years in November and that gives me hope for my situation. I'm not married but I have a woman who loves me unconditionally. With that being typed again I wish you the best of luck and hope that in your future you find "The One" instead of finding "Someone".
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Post by: Hoshi on October 23, 2014, 09:02:04 am
Sorry to hear about your shitty luck, bro. Good to see that you're coming out of it well and being a lot more positive than most would be.  As far as marriage goes, it's a mixed bag. Obviously, you're not gonna jump back into getting married, but take a break from the dating scene and don't look for anyone. Get back into the swing of things. You got this shit, man.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 23, 2014, 10:39:59 am
I appreciate your words everyone.  Just made it home from work and going to call it a night.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: MissB on October 23, 2014, 01:02:20 pm
It's pretty painful when someone violates your trust like that.  I'm sorry you had to deal it.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 23, 2014, 07:20:18 pm
Mog, its ok. It's one of life's experiences and please don't be offended about me labeling women, im only speaking from experience and I know there are a few that are nothing like the majority that fits the earlier descriptions.

And again everyone, Thanks for your words and support. It really helps and means alot.

Just finished signing the papers for my new home, I move in next Friday. Single life and Freedom, how I miss you so!!!

Here are some teaser shots of my new place, a three bedroom loft style modern/contemporary home. I am too excited!

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Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: HUNGRY WOLF on October 23, 2014, 07:42:24 pm
Damn! Sorry to hear about all drama you had to go through and glad it all turned out in your favor.

I actually had my girlfriend read what you wrote in the first page, as she read it quietly all she said was "That ungrateful Bitch! and she didn't even apologies, these type of basic bitches is whats makes us look bad" she was pretty mad.

Good luck with your new home & enjoy the single life man.

Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Jarek Bachanek on October 26, 2014, 08:22:05 pm
wow you got tough time but I see you get stronger from this experience. You also mentioned she had a daughter. You keepin touch woth her and you are close to her ? How she handled the divorce ? I'm only asking because I felt it was missing part of your story.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on October 29, 2014, 10:45:54 pm
Me and my stepdaughter, I still see her as my little girl no matter what, are still in contact.

As far as her with the divorce situation, I'm good, she has to deal with it.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Watta on October 30, 2014, 08:06:11 pm
I just had a read of this. I'm glad to see you well and back bro.
Man, that must have been shit, seeing that you didn't do anything wrong from your part. I'm very surprised at her behavior when you saw her "lover" or w/e.

Hope life gets better for you bro, you've been through a lot :P
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: BIG BOSS on October 30, 2014, 10:44:42 pm
Since so much has already been said. I will say this, continue to keep your head up and enjoy life. We only have one life to live, so enjoy it much as possible.
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: ink on October 30, 2014, 10:45:41 pm
Damn dude! I just read through this...

Sorry to hear about all that crazy drama. On the plus side your life will probably get super cool with all the new found freedoms.

Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: -SyN- on November 05, 2014, 01:38:08 pm
It's all good ink, btw I am currently enjoying that freedom now and actually about to do some mugen work!
Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: GLB on November 07, 2014, 12:39:14 am
-SyN- said, October 29, 2014, 10:45:54 pm
Me and my stepdaughter, I still see her as my little girl no matter what, are still in contact.


That's good, that's one positive thing from it all.

-SyN- said, November 05, 2014, 01:38:08 pm
about to do some mugen work!

This is also good.  8)

Title: Re: I'll just put this here if anyone cares. (Sorta long read)
Post by: Amy on November 07, 2014, 01:27:52 am
Now that's the equality I'm talking about.

Glad it worked wonders for you, and good to see you back.

It's good to see men winning these kind of cases, mostly women win these just for the fact they're "women" and "fragile". With all due respect, but your ex-wife is a real bitch, you can't call it a woman. Women wouldn't do such things.

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