My opinion is that you're just being a big bitch right now and really not willing to listen no matter what. What a change.
You still haven't said how his more experience on another forum is relevant to me making decisions on a forum that I moderate.It's relevant in how I think your attitude was "pushing it" to use your words. Not really abusive since I have no problem with this topic being merged into the katamari, but a little overreacting and really unnecessary.
If I struggled to the end of my determination, to the end of my way of life with my followers, if the result is ruin, then this ruin is inevitable. Grieve. Shed tears. But you cannot regret.